Training Our Children for Success


We live in the information age. Many children today have smart phones, which can open up “doors” to pornography and other explicit materials. The internet has the potential to expose children to things we never imagined growing up.

Parents must engage their children by being proactive and initiate what may be considered “uncomfortable” conversations. Our children are not going to engage us on this level. We need to let them know that we know what’s going on out there, and that we love and care about them.

It is important that we take a stand, and tell our children that there are something’s they are not ready to deal. We need to set boundaries for their protection.  Proverbs 19:18 (NKJV) says, Chasten your son while there is hope, And do not set your heart on his destruction.”

There are deadly implications if our children are not disciplined. Today, you hear people say things like; we could not get away with stuff like that when we were growing up. I find myself asking, “What happened that now makes unacceptable behaviors permissible?”  “Have we as parents abandoned those same values we were brought up with?”

Parents today have opted to be their children’s “friends”. Hear me people, we are NOT, our children’s friend. They don’t want or need us to be their friend. They need us to be their mother and father who has wisdom and knowledge that will guide and protect them.

We only have a small window, to guide, teach and reinforce values, discipline and instill a respect for others in our children. This is a temporary undertaking which has life long implications.

If we prematurely take on the role as friend, it will be almost impossible to consistently guide and instill discipline in our children.  If we play our role as a parent well, we will have a friend in our children as they mature into disciplined adults.

Guide your children and keep them on the right way. Always remember that there are other elements competing for your child’s attention…friends, peers, gangs and drugs to name a few.

Stand strong in your love for your children. As long as they are still under your care, before habits become strongholds, there is hope in correction.

Don’t let those sympathetic, pouting faces deter you from doing the right thing. The tears they cry today are nothing compared to the tears that would be shed due to the consequences of unwise choices.

Without discipline, there is no rest. If you put in the work at the front end you will reap the benefits later on.

Prov.29:17 (NKJV), Correct your son, and he will give you rest; Yes, he will give delight to your soul.”

Discipline is the bridge between where we are and where we want to go. Reinforce this bridge for the safety of your child’s travel.