Training Our Children for Success


We live in the information age. Many children today have smart phones, which can open up “doors” to pornography and other explicit materials. The internet has the potential to expose children to things we never imagined growing up.

Parents must engage their children by being proactive and initiate what may be considered “uncomfortable” conversations. Our children are not going to engage us on this level. We need to let them know that we know what’s going on out there, and that we love and care about them.

It is important that we take a stand, and tell our children that there are something’s they are not ready to deal. We need to set boundaries for their protection.  Proverbs 19:18 (NKJV) says, Chasten your son while there is hope, And do not set your heart on his destruction.”

There are deadly implications if our children are not disciplined. Today, you hear people say things like; we could not get away with stuff like that when we were growing up. I find myself asking, “What happened that now makes unacceptable behaviors permissible?”  “Have we as parents abandoned those same values we were brought up with?”

Parents today have opted to be their children’s “friends”. Hear me people, we are NOT, our children’s friend. They don’t want or need us to be their friend. They need us to be their mother and father who has wisdom and knowledge that will guide and protect them.

We only have a small window, to guide, teach and reinforce values, discipline and instill a respect for others in our children. This is a temporary undertaking which has life long implications.

If we prematurely take on the role as friend, it will be almost impossible to consistently guide and instill discipline in our children.  If we play our role as a parent well, we will have a friend in our children as they mature into disciplined adults.

Guide your children and keep them on the right way. Always remember that there are other elements competing for your child’s attention…friends, peers, gangs and drugs to name a few.

Stand strong in your love for your children. As long as they are still under your care, before habits become strongholds, there is hope in correction.

Don’t let those sympathetic, pouting faces deter you from doing the right thing. The tears they cry today are nothing compared to the tears that would be shed due to the consequences of unwise choices.

Without discipline, there is no rest. If you put in the work at the front end you will reap the benefits later on.

Prov.29:17 (NKJV), Correct your son, and he will give you rest; Yes, he will give delight to your soul.”

Discipline is the bridge between where we are and where we want to go. Reinforce this bridge for the safety of your child’s travel.


Training for Success


The dictionary defines discipline as all activity, exercise or regimen that develops or improves a skill.

I grew up playing football or soccer (depending on what part of the world you are from). As a young teen we played “pick up” games in the village for fun. These games had few rules, but some of the best players emerged from these games.

The scouts would travel around the country, visiting villages to recruit potential players from these pick-up games. Those players with potential would be drafted into major clubs to compete at a higher level, even for the National team.

There is an enormous amount of pressure on these players, because they are no longer playing for fun, but now they are playing to win for a club.

Once drafted to play at a higher level you must leave your comfort zone. It’s no longer a village pick-up game. You are introduced to the rules and regulations of the clubs and the game itself. Now at this level, order is introduced into the game. There is a coach who teaches strategies and plays you must remember. Adjustments have to be made to your game in order to fit into the team.

Did you know that God’s Kingdom functions at this “high level”?  We come as we are. We come with our unlimited potential, because we were created in God’s image. We get saved and we start reading the Word of God. We begin to understand it and then start applying it to our lives.

It is the Word that guides and directs us as to how we should function or operate in God’s Kingdom.  God is a God of order. The only way to be orderly, you must become a disciplined person.

When Jesus walked on this earth, He was always communing with God in prayer. We have to make a commitment to pray. During His toughest, most trying time Jesus showed the highest form of discipline. In Luke 22:42 (NIV), he says, “Father, if you are willing, take this cup from me; yet not my will, but yours be done.” Jesus was always willing to be obedient to the Father who sent Him. This is why he was so successful in his Ministry here on earth.

Hebrews 12:11(NIV) says, “No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it.”

If we want to be successful we must get the Word of God in our spirit. It is the Word that brings order in our lives. It guides us in how to live well, it corrects us and teaches us, strengthens and comforts us. If you want to be successful, you have to be willing to shake off the old habits and be willing to be trained by God.

I have heard it said that your talent will bring you before great men, but your character keeps you in the their company. There were some good players who were drafted by the big clubs, but ended up being dropped. They were all good players, but they were dropped because they were undisciplined and could not be trained to play on a professional level.

Are you willing to humble yourself to be shaped, molded and trained by God to be successful?